20 Grief Questions
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Is grief a gaping absence or an enduring presence?
Does it prefer shadows or secret sanctuaries?
Does it demand autonomy, respect, collaboration?
Does it stem from the magma of the earth or the vastness of the heavens?
Is it smooth or jagged, angular or spherical, formless or wavy?
If I allow it to roam freely will it dominate everything?
Is it fierce, kind, cruel, loyal, wise, decisive, arbitrary?
Is it subject to banishment (and is that what’s best for me)?
Is it a bridge, spiral, threshold, refuge, garden, forest, cave?
Is it a hidden portal to some old forgotten way?
Can it shape-shift, transfigure, regenerate?
Is it a wild story that defies classification?
Does it seek to illuminate enduring connections?
Is it altering my inner landscape?
Can it strategize, minimize, confabulate?
Does it rail against the bad rap/faulty map/widening gap of consensus reality?
Is it a barrier to relationship or a catalyst to intimacy?
Are attempts to contain it in words and images utterly insufficient?
Do these questions require answers or is asking enough for today?
Can I be the sacred witness who simply wonders and waits?
These are wonderful questions, Corry! So beautiful and poetic. They reveal grief to be much more of a subjective, universal, holy experience than is typically understood.
I love these questions, Corry. To me, they are questions that invite curiosity and exploration. They are questions "to live into". Thank you.